I remember the exact moment I ordered my first dose of tirzepatide.

I was sitting in my car in a parking lot — kids dropped off, coffee getting cold — and I felt this wave of something I didn’t expect: shame. Not excitement. Not relief. Shame. Like wanting to feel good in my body again was somehow a betrayal of motherhood.

And I thought: what is wrong with me?

Here’s what I’ve learned since then: nothing. Nothing is wrong with me. But there is something deeply wrong with the message we send mothers — that wanting things for yourself is selfish. That your body, your health, your mental state, your joy should always come last. That choosing yourself, in any form, means you’re choosing against your kids.

I built Mommish because I was done with that story.

Mom guilt is real. I’m not going to sit here and tell you it goes away completely, because that would be a lie and you’d know it. But there’s a version of mom guilt that’s your values talking — I said I’d be at pickup on time — and there’s a version that’s just the noise of a culture that has never fully decided if mothers are allowed to be full human beings.

The second kind? We can learn to tune it out.

For me, starting my health journey — tirzepatide and all — was the first time in years I made a decision that was 100% for me. Not for the kids. Not because a doctor scared me. For me, because I wanted to feel strong and energized and like myself again. And the guilt that came with it was almost comical, once I named it. Like, I’m literally taking a medication so I can be more present, more energetic, more alive for my family — and I’m feeling guilty about it?

Mom guilt is sneaky like that. It’ll attach itself to literally anything.

Here’s my challenge to you this week: name one thing you’ve felt guilty about that actually made you a better mom. It’s sitting there. Find it. Claim it. That guilt? It’s actually evidence that you’re doing something right.

You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to get better. You are allowed to choose yourself — and still be the best mom your kids have ever seen.

That’s not selfish. That’s the whole point of Mommish.

— Christa, Founder of Mommish